Reminder to everyone out there, that a kink can be something that you like to think about, like to fantasise about but never want to do it in real life. That’s still valid. It’s okay to have really scary and wild fantasies [or just mild ones] and have them be totally separate from reality.

Lady Delphine via Twitter – https://bit.ly/2ZMHtNn

I love helping people to explore their fantasies in the real world. But it needs to be said – it’s perfectly valid to have fantasies, even ones that society won’t approve of and to never act on them*.

When you visit a site like mine you may feel that there is some pressure or imperative to participate for your kink, your sexuality, your pleasure to be “whole”. That is not true. It is fine to have a rich fantasy life that stays entirely in your head and is never shared with anyone.

How you express your kink/s is entirely up to you. Some of my clients have taken literally years to reach a point where they are ready to physically explore their fantasies with me, building trust over time until they feel safe enough to tell me what they are thinking. Some love the idea of exploring so much that they dive into a session on camera right off the bat. Some will never do any of those things.

If that is you – and you just like coming here to see my films and photos – then that’s ok too. You don’t need to please anyone but yourself.

* Note: if you have fantasies outside the realms of what consenting adults can do together and you worry that it is effecting your life, your safety, or others, then find a therapist who understands kink and get help with it. I’m not here to kink-shame anyone, but we cannot let our kinks hurt ourselves, or other people who are not willing, consenting adults.

MJohn.